If you have heard or read quite a number of counsellors, therapists, Life Coaches et al telling their clients to be vulnerable – to share their deepest pains and weaknesses so as to be free, let it be known, that not everyone has that mental capacity to handle your vulnerabilities.
Also in the process of opening up about your true personality and probably your past not everyone can handle that as well, because many may get scared thinking you are a horrible being even though they have most horrific past than you.
Another dangerous perspective to it is, make sure the person you’re being vulnerable around isn’t someone who had promised to do some sort of partnership or business with you prior to that time, Because that would be the end of the deal. Are you surprised? Yes I know.? you are.
That’s how difficult it is to be real and open in a society where everyone has to bottle up pain, anguish, hatred, bitterness and animosity as well as their true self yet desire a perfect life, future and society.
And that is the height of hypocrisy, if you ask me.
So watch who you share your “tell it all” moment with because you might just be shooting yourself in the foot!
HOW DO I FIND THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO SHARE VULNERABILITIES WITH?
Like I rightly said at the beginning of this write up, Counsellors, LIfe-Coaches and Therapists and even Pastors – like they often say are “Spiritual Fathers” amongst others may seem to be the perfect individuals to confide in however, do not forget that these set of people are also human beings like you.
And many of them, just like you still look up to someone or some persons for either guidance or spiritual support in whatever they do. Therefore, never be too carried away with the way they present themselves at the beginning. Because people do change with time. Just be vigilant.
Another way to identify, the right persons to open up to is, whenever they come around you they would be comfortable sharing their deepest part of their lives with you without holding back. And by doing this, seeking your views and opinions in whatever they intend doing with their lives. When you meet people like this who put so much trust in your sense of judgment don’t hold back too. Be free around them.
However, in whatever could be a major red flag in identifying the wrong persons to open up too. When you’re around these persons, they seem too cagey about their lives and always looking forward to know yours, by asking too many unnecessary questions.
Once you notice these signs, then know they aren’t right for you to be vulnerable around. Watch out for these key things and you will never have to worry about who hurt you with your vulnerabilities.